The wedding day is very definitely about the bride. Lets not beat around the bush here, the bride, bridesmaids and mother of the bride have all been much more involved in planning the wedding than the groom but despite his limited involvement leading up to the big day it’s still common for the groom to get a gift. Don’t ask me why, he just does.
Of course the bride doesn’t have to give her Mr Right a gift, it’s an optional piece of etiquette that seems to have grown in popularity over the years. Just make sure he knows that he’s supposed to do the same for you.
WHEN SHOULD I GIVE THE GROOM HIS GIFT?
You will often give the groom his gift on the night before the wedding or on the morning before he gets ready. If you’re following rules of wedding etiquette then you’ll know that you aren’t supposed to see each other the night before the wedding so you might need to get a little creative here.
You could pass the gift on to your hubby to be via the best man although you are running the risk that he will forget to give his BFF the gift. So try and think about somewhere to hide the gift that the groom will definitely find it. Sneaking it in with the suit or hiding it in the box with his new wedding shoes and you should be a winner.
Another option is to exchange gits after the wedding or before the honeymoon but this does require you to formalise the arrangement, removing the element of surprise, somewhat.
Don’t give him the present during the speeches. The reason for this is that you want to keep your guests (the audience) engaged so try not to slow things down by having to watch the two of you opening gifts.
WHAT SHOULD I GIVE THE GROOM AS HIS WEDDING GIFT?
There’s no need for a girl to go overboard, with this gift you can give whatever you deem fitting. A typical choice is to give something that can be worn on the wedding day or taken on the honeymoon. Popular choices are watches and personalised cufflinks. You could also pimp your gift a little buy opting for something quite ceremonial in appearance, rather than choosing a wrist watch opt for a pocket watch with the wedding date engraved on the back.
Aftershave, initialled socks or a leather toiletry bag (for the minimoon) are also popular choices as is a hipflask but be careful. If you do give him a hipflask you do run the risk of him turning up t o the church smelling of whisky.